Top 5 Tips: Preparing for a Doctor’s Appointment

Depending on the needs of the person you are caring for, you may find that you are spending a lot of time at medical appointments.  These appointments, although important, can be stressful and exhausting for both you and your loved one.  The practical strategies below can help you take a proactive approach and set your and your loved one up for success – and hopefully less stress – the next time you are getting ready to visit a doctor.

1. Be a confident caregiver. As a caregiver, you are your loved one’s advocate and their greatest support.  You know their routines, changes in their moods and behaviors and a variety of other insights that can help their medical provider best understand their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Approach the appointment with confidence. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.  Let them know if you need information repeated or better explained if you feel confused.
2. Reduce stress by planning ahead. To help an appointment go as smoothly as possible, be mindful of your loved one’s routines and needs. Is there a time of day when your loved one is mentally/physically at their best? If so, try to schedule appointments during that time frame when possible.Your loved one’s physical discomfort can lead to increased stress for both of you while at an appointment. Making efforts to ensure your loved one’s comfort can be tremendously helpful.  If your loved one is frequently cold, be sure to pack a jacket or blanket for them. If they become agitated when hungry, encourage them to have a snack before or on the way to the appointment. If sitting in a waiting room or exam room makes your loved one anxious, try listening to soft music or an audiobook on your phone while waiting. If sitting still is difficult for your loved one, try packing a book, magazine or adult coloring book as a waiting activity.
3. Make a list of your questions and concerns. Have you ever left a doctor’s office and thought to yourself, “I wish I remembered to ask about ____.”?  If so, you’re not alone. It can be difficult to think of all your questions and concerns in the brief time you have with a medical provider.  To help you get the most out of your loved one’s appointment, take 5-10 minutes to write down your thoughts, questions, and concerns prior to the appointment. If you do think of a question following the appointment, contact the medical office by phone or through an online communication option (such as a patient portal).
4. Know your loved one’s current medications.  Whether saved on your phone or on a piece of paper, it’s helpful to have a go-to list of all prescribed and over-the-counter medications your loved one is taking.  Be sure to make note of the medication name, dose, and how often it is taken.
5. Plan to phone a friend or family member.  It can be difficult to absorb all the information that your loved one’s medical provider may share with you during an appointment. Having a second pair of listening ears can be a huge help! Recruit a family member or friend to join by phone during your time with the provider. They can listen to the responses and even help by taking notes.